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Sex & Relationships December 22, 2023

Is Being a Good Lover or Parent More Important

In relationships today, being a good lover is vital. It’s more than hugs and kisses; it’s about understanding and caring for your partner in a way that makes the connection stronger. But when your relationship develops and you have children, this adds another element to the mix. This is when there’s often a discussion about what matters more: being a good lover or a good parent. Let’s delve into this interesting topic!

A recent study by Hashtag Dating gathered over 4 million survey responses from their community, involving both men and women. The survey asked various questions, like what people like on first dates, their family preferences, and how they see the future with their significant others. Out of those 4 million answers, what did the respondents value?

80.31% of males would rather be with a good lover than a good parent.
Males are looking for passion (73.19%) rather than stability from their partner.
A good personality is more important than good looks for both sexes, but particularly for women (81.45%) who would choose someone who will make them feel good, rather than who looks good.

With many more interesting findings, this study helps people who are dating by providing an insight into what others are looking for or value when it comes to a partner. It also suggests that traditional ideas about relationships might be changing. For those looking for someone to connect with, the study results suggest that talking openly about what each person wants is key! It emphasizes the significance of mutual understanding and compatibility in fostering long-lasting relationships, whether you’re looking for a lover or the parent of your future children.

Being a Good Lover

Being adept at being a good lover significantly enhances the dynamics of a relationship. Think of it as possessing a special ingredient that makes everything click seamlessly. At its core is a robust emotional connection—the kind that weathers the test of time. A good lover comprehends the importance of providing understanding and emotional support, fostering a comfortable environment for partners to share vulnerabilities—the adhesive that binds relationships together. When combined with emotions, physical intimacy can truly step into the limelight.

There’s no doubt that having children changes your life in a lot of ways. You become less spontaneous, your focus is on your little one, and sometimes this doesn’t leave much space for your relationship with your partner. But a good lover understands the necessity of maintaining the flame of passion, incorporating small gestures, adventure, and physical closeness. And here’s the real game-changer: infusing excitement, which can make the tough times not seem so bad. Monotony can dampen the sparks in a relationship, so a good lover adds a pinch of spice, ensuring the relationship remains vibrant, dynamic, and incredibly thrilling. This can, in turn, have a massively positive effect on your capacity to care for your child, as you feel your needs are indeed being met.

How to Be a Good Lover

Being a good lover involves a set of important traits. You might not expect it, but communication is at the core, where expressing feelings, active listening, and encouraging open dialogue are key. This makes sure that both partners feel like they are being heard and understood. Additionally, empathy plays an important role, allowing a good lover to connect on a deeper level by understanding a partner’s perspective, validating their emotions, and offering support. This creates an environment for everyone to thrive emotionally and physically. Open-mindedness is another trait embraced by a good lover, and also being receptive to change, which helps sustain the vitality of the relationship over time.

Being a Good Parent

So what about being a good parent? That’s of course important too! Showing your partner that you’re committed and fully invested in your family unit is valuable in more ways than one. Not only will your child grow up feeling loved and accepted, but the bond you have with your partner will deepen in a way you’ve never experienced before as they see you through the new role of “parent”. As their love, respect, and adoration for you increases, this will not only have a positive effect on your familial relationship but on your romantic relationship too.

It has to be said that being a good parent is not always easy. You’re bound to make mistakes every now and again – you’re only human after all! But putting in the effort to be the best possible parent you can be is a decision that will reward you tenfold.

Balancing Being a Good Lover and Parent

Do you want a happier relationship? Balancing being a good lover and a good parent is the key to success! It means understanding the importance of both roles and making sure they work well together. Being a good parent deals with everyday, practical life tasks (think routines, schedules, taking your children to the doctor, dance class, and so on). On the other hand, keeping the romantic side of things strong (by organizing cute dates and spending quality time together, for example) is also super important for a relationship that lasts. Although it might not seem like it at first, these two roles go hand in hand, each making the relationship better in their own unique way. Actively putting effort into both roles is like planting seeds for a strong relationship. It’s a choice to keep the connection not just alive but full of energy and happiness.

Being exclusively committed to just one role, like being a good parent, comes with certain drawbacks. In long-term, stable relationships, there’s a danger of taking each other for granted, as the focus on being a good parent might bulldoze the importance of keeping the flame alive between you both. Another drawback is the potential lack of passion, as prioritizing children over actively fostering a romantic connection can result in relationships becoming routine and complacent, losing the spark that initially brought you together.

However, on the other hand, if you only put effort into being a good lover and don’t deem being a good parent important, this can lead to other issues. Your child may feel sad and neglected as they appear unimportant in your eyes. This might make it harder for you to bond with your child if you ever do decide to shift your focus to them. Additionally, even though your partner might benefit from and appreciate your skills as a good lover, there’s a chance that you not prioritizing your relationship and responsibilities as a parent could cause a rift between you two also.

Therefore, the key word here really is balance. Make sure you’re juggling the roles of being a good lover and a good parent as best you can! Sure, you might have days where being a good parent comes easier than being a good lover or vice versa. That’s fine! Just take time to regularly review the balance, communicate with each other, and adjust wherever necessary to keep you and your loved ones happy.

Conquering Relationship Obstacles

In any relationship, communication challenges are bound to happen. A good partner takes on the responsibility of not just acknowledging these breakdowns but actively addressing them. This involves finding solutions that build rather than break, allowing both partners to grow together through the process. When it comes to misunderstandings, they can be like cracks in the foundation of a relationship. A good partner dives into the heart of the matter, seeking to understand the root causes. This approach creates a culture of openness and vulnerability, acting as a shield against future conflicts. And let’s talk about the spark—even in long-lasting relationships, it might need a little nudge. Being a good partner means taking proactive steps to reignite passion. This could involve new experiences, shared adventures, or simple acts of affection, all aimed at keeping the flame burning bright.

At the end of the day, every single relationship and family situation is unique. You have to be open to communicating honestly with the people in your life about what suits your unit best. While it’s vital to be a good, caring parent, paying attention to your partner’s feelings and keeping the romance alive makes the relationship stronger and last longer, which in turn will benefit your children as they see their parents working as a strong team! Finding a balance between being a good lover and a good parent helps the relationship grow and stay strong over time. It’s not about picking one over the other; it’s about doing both as well as possible. This mix creates a wonderful, lasting love story and a happy family!

Sex & Relationships December 13, 2023

Choosing the Perfect First Date Spot for Gay Couples

At the perfect First Date Spot for Gay Couples, the excitement of a first date is an exhilarating experience, filled with the promise of new connections and shared moments. For gay couples, this choice can set the tone for the entire relationship. Here, we explore creative and fun date ideas designed to foster meaningful conversation and connection. Check out our curated list of unforgettable Gay Dating Events that promise a memorable start to your journey together..

1. Culinary Adventures:

Embark on a journey of the senses by choosing a unique restaurant or café with a diverse menu. Opt for a place that sparks conversation about your favourite cuisines or one that offers a tasting menu for a shared experience. Exploring new flavours together can create a delightful atmosphere for a first date.

2. Artistic Escapades:

For a date filled with creativity and inspiration, consider visiting an art gallery or attending a live performance. Art has a magical way of sparking conversation, and discussing your impressions of different pieces can lead to meaningful connections. Attend a theatre show, live music event, or art exhibition for an evening that combines culture and connection.

3. Outdoor Oasis:

Nature provides a serene backdrop for a first date. Plan a picnic in a local park, take a scenic hike, or visit a botanical garden. The open-air and beauty of the outdoors create a relaxed setting, allowing for genuine conversation to flow. Whether you’re strolling through a garden or sharing a blanket under the stars, nature provides a perfect canvas for connection.

4. Interactive Experiences:

Opt for an activity that requires collaboration and engagement, such as a cooking class, escape room, or art workshop. These interactive experiences not only provide an opportunity to learn something new together but also encourage teamwork and communication. The shared accomplishment can be a memorable foundation for your budding relationship.

5. Quaint Cafés and Hidden Gems:

Seek out cozy cafés or hidden gems in your city that offer a more intimate setting. These locales often provide a quiet ambience conducive to conversation. Consider a charming coffee shop, a tucked-away wine bar, or a dessert place with a sweet atmosphere. A comfortable setting can make it easier to open up and connect.

Factors to Consider When Selecting a First Date Location:

Shared Interests: Choose a spot that aligns with shared interests to ensure a connection from the start.

Comfort Levels: Consider each other’s comfort levels with different environments and activities to create a relaxed atmosphere.

Accessibility: Opt for a location that is easily accessible for both parties to make the logistics of the date smooth and stress-free.

Date Spots that Allow for Meaningful Conversation and Connection:

Quiet corners in bustling places: Find spots within lively environments that offer more secluded corners for personal conversations.

Scenic Views: Locations with beautiful scenery can provide a picturesque backdrop for your date, sparking romantic and thoughtful conversations.

Unique Experiences: Choose venues that offer something out of the ordinary, creating shared memories and conversation starters.

In the end, the key to a perfect first date lies in the authenticity of the connection you build. By selecting a spot that allows for genuine conversation and aligns with your shared interests, you’re not just planning a date; you’re crafting the beginning of a beautiful journey together.

Business November 9, 2023

#WomenWorldwide: Don’t Listen To The Nay-Sayers with Camille Marie Coaching & Sacred Sensual Soul

Our interviewee today, Camille, started her entrepreneurial journey how many of us do – working 9 to 5 (what a way to make a living). She knew she had a message and mission to share but was afraid to take the leap.

Since taking that leap, Camille has found the freedom that allows her to do great work with both Camille Marie Coaching and sister business Sacred Sensual Soul which focuses on human sexuality.

Camille, as you can imagine, is filled with great wisdom – so let’s get into it…

HOC: Great to meet you, Camille . You started your journey to being an entrepreneur while working 9-5, is that right?

Camille: You too! Yes, you’re right. I started toying with the idea of becoming an entrepreneur around the Summer of 2016. I knew I had a message and mission to share but I was scared to take the leap and go out on my own. I’d been struggling with loving the work I did at the agency I worked for, but hated having to answer to the bureaucracy of an employer and being required to work a set schedule while raising three little boys. I’ve never been one who has worked well with a set schedule and wanted more freedom.

Since 2008 I’ve worked in social services and found it frustrating to always be limited by policies and procedures that didn’t always fit every situation for the clients I worked with. I’m a very creative and innovative person and if I saw a way something could be done better and challenged it, I would often times hear the reply, “this is how it’s always been done and will continue to be done”. If upper management did agree that my recommended changes were reasonable, the policy or procedure in question would have to go to some type of human resources or quality control department to review and make changes themselves, who had limited knowledge of what they were even working with. It was so frustrating for me.

HOC: And where did you go from that point of frustration?

Camille: I started baby steps over the next year and a half by building my websites, getting my LLC and developing documents I would need to run my businesses. Sometime around Spring 2018 I was notified by my employer that they were shutting down the program I was a part of. I was offered a position in another department, but I knew I wanted to continue the work I had been doing, and that I could do it on my own. I saw it as a sign from the universe that it was go time; that was the push I needed to branch off and really launch.

In August 2018 Camille Marie Coaching, LLC officially opened. It was terrifying, and exhilarating. I’m not sure I would have done it, at least not that soon if I had not been laid off from the position I had. That was a huge lesson to me that the universe creates what looks like obstacles, but are really doors opening if we allow ourselves to get uncomfortable and move through it.

I launched my second business Sacred Sensual Soul shortly after. Initially, I was going to have them both under one business name but got market feedback in a soft launch that it was weird to people to have sex coaching and parent coaching under the same business, so split them up into two separate ones. They function completely separately although over time I’ve been getting moms I’ve worked with as a parent coach initially, who then become clients for sex coaching.

HOC: Such an amazing progression. How did you get your businesses off the ground, who were your first clients?

Camille: My first business, Camille Marie Coaching (CMC), LLC got a contract with Washington State’s Children’s Administration in August 2018 to teach evidence based parenting classes to parents involved with Child Protective Services. For this contract, we serve families who have lost custody of their children due to abuse or neglect and have been court ordered to attend parenting classes in attempts to regain custody of their children. At that same time CMC began offering the same classes to the public sector as well, both in person and online. The online classes have been awesome to launch because it allows parents from literally anywhere in the world connect with me and has allowed more families access because of the easy accessibility. I’ve also noticed that some people just engage better when they have that veil of the screen between you and them. It’s just the world we are in today with technology. My agency also started offering trainings to foster care agencies on topics related to children such as anxiety in children. Because I had been in the industry so long, word spread quickly that I had an agency offering these great parenting classes and trainings.

Soon after this, CMC started offering additional programming to support families who have children with learning disabilities such as Dyslexia and Dysgraphia, as well as other diagnoses such as Anxiety, ADHD and Autism. Most of these children need specific accommodations in their school setting to be successful, and CMC works with the school staff to ensure that there is written documentation of the accommodations that child needs. CMC also helps come up with behaviour intervention techniques that will help the child thrive in school settings as well as at home.

HOC: What amazing work to be doing, but quite different from the work you do with Sacred Sensual Soul, as you mentioned…

Camille: I guess so! I’ve always been comfortable talking about and learning about human sexuality. In 2016 I started a Masters Program in Human Sexuality which gave me a lot of detail about female anatomy I had NO idea about.

It fascinated me that I had so little knowledge about my own body, ( didn’t even know what I didn’t know, until I knew!) and realized many other women were in the same boat. I took courses on communication in sexuality. I began to learn about what my turn on was. I studied almost obsessively about mind-body connection and became incredibly familiar with the philosophy of Tantra (which I use in my work with women) and the importance of mindfulness. I read all things divine goddess.

In the process I came across exercises and techniques to get more and more in touch with the body which in the process, led to a deep understanding that the body is a vessel to my own divine goddess. I also began coming up with my own techniques to connect mind, body and soul which was incredibly healing. Throughout this process I developed a knowing that if I could tap into that energy, it could be an endless source of vitality. I began sharing my ideas with friends, asking them to apply some of my concepts and exercises and had such good feedback!

That was when it became clear to me that I wanted to bring this information to other women as a practice. To help women heal, to feel empowered, to find their voice for their body, their temple, their needs, wants and desires. And so, Sacred Sensual Soul opened for clients the summer of 2018 as well. I have been working on an interactive workbook for women putting all of these ideas to paper, that I hope to one day publish.

HOC: It’s a very interesting topic and not one we hear too much about here in the UK.

Camille: I work with women to help undo any stigma they may have around their sexuality that may have been placed by society, religion, family messaging, or experiences with partners they’ve had. It’s astounding, and sad to me how many women have rejected their own feelings and desires due to conditioning from these sources. It’s astounding to me how much emphasis there is on the man’s needs, wants and desires, and yet women feel uncomfortable even being curious about, or asking for their own. When I work with women, I really try to help them feel comfortable with identifying things like figuring out what their turn on is; kink, intellectual conversation, romance, physical touch, quality time. This is so important for a woman to know, because it’s an example of how her desire matters, and this knowledge can then give them a voice to ask for what they need to actually want to, or look forward to intimacy with their partner.

I teach women how to identify what about intimacy they enjoy, (and how to speak up about what they don’t!) and to practice that so that the focus isn’t on orgasm alone. Through this process I give them tools to learn how to embrace, honour and get in touch with their body, so that they learn that mind-body connection IS their source of their sexuality and it doesn’t have to come from someone else. Often times I will give women homework of doing some of the exercises I was talking about before to learn to connect with their body. For example, teaching women how to do breast massage. I will encourage them to make it a part of a routine in their day, such as after getting out of the shower. I’ll suggest they use a lotion or oil that smells good to them so that it is another way they are intentionally serving themselves. This may sound trivial, or nonsensical. However, the breasts are a beautiful gift to women that can be honored as a piece of their femininity. Not only is breast massage a way to take a moment to slow down and serve your inner goddess, it circulates the lymphatic system, and can also provide self pleasure. For women who are not comfortable with their bodies, this simple exercise, with the intentions can be helpful with that. I love that it requires no one else.

A huge part of the shift towards empowerment that sex coaching gives women, is to learn how to communicate with their partners. It is not uncommon that many couples can have sex, but are uncomfortable communicating about it which can result often times in a woman’s needs/wants/desires to go unmet. I’ve found often times that when a woman opens up communication with her partner about these things to honor herself, he is more than happy to oblige.

I also help women learn to turn within for their own sexual gratification, and power. Rather than relying on what family thinks, or even their partner. This helps women to learn to connect with their inner goddess and let her guide how they show up each day. The book, Pussy, A Reclamation by Regena Thmashauer is a great resource for more information about that.

HOC: Being someone that has worked in a number of fields, how did you know that what you do now was right for you?

Camille: I’ve always loved working with families and children. Even before college, I worked at a preschool and loved babysitting as a teenager. I always knew I would work with youth in some way. When I learned about the parenting classes curriculum I knew it would be perfect fit for me and have done it for the past 11 years. It’s been easy for me to continue that work in my own business.

For the work with Sacred Sensual Soul, as I mentioned, I’ve always been fascinated by human sexuality and comfortable talking about it. When I had my spiritual awakening start in 2016, I noticed that I started to let go of what society around me had told me I “should” feel, act, dress and respond in regard to my sexuality. And when I say sexuality, I mean my inner goddess, my divine soul, my true nature…I wanted all of me to be in alignment instead of how I thought I “should” be. As I began to educate myself on female anatomy, female orgasm and pleasure, societal conditioning, the trauma women endure from suppressing their truth, it all came down to this innate piece in women needing to be seen and understood; their sexuality. Because it can be the powerhouse of every female.

I learned through my awakening how powerful it can be to have a deeper understanding of all of those things and harness the power that comes from knowledge about one’s self in this area. I knew it was a calling to share this information with other women. It was like I HAD to do it.

That purpose gets stronger the more women I work with and, the more I learn about the different journeys that bring so many women to the same space of just craving a deeper understanding and knowing about their bodies and sexuality. So many women think there’s something wrong with them and a little education and undoing of social conforming goes a really long way! I’m still working on my interactive workbook that I know will be so educational and moving.

HOC: Really fascinating businesses you run. We imagine that it’s not always been smooth sailing; what challenges have you had to overcome to build your business?

Camille: One challenge I’ve had in being such a small agency, is that I’ve had to learn to do a lot of things that are not strengths of mine. If something is not a strength of mine, I tend to put off taking care of it which can have negative impacts.

To overcome this, I’ve really learned to hone in on what I can delegate to others, so things don’t pile up. I’ve hired an accountant to handle my billing and now have a virtual assistant to manage things that are just not in my wheelhouse.

At first it was hard for me to do, asking others to do things for me. But I’ve learned that it allows more creative space for me, and gives me the time and freedom to focus on what I am good at and can grow my businesses more. These investments have been tremendously helpful so that I don’t get bogged down on details that I’m not good at.

Another challenge I’ve had is that I’m a mom to 3 little boys who is driven by her career, and also doesn’t want to miss a moment of my children’s life. I have to constantly be weighing each day. This is where time blocking is helpful.

HOC: Great advice! For our readers looking to start out on their own, what would you say?

Camille: Know that it’s scary in the beginning. And you WILL get resistance. Lean into it. Don’t let the challenges convince you that it means you’re not doing what your soul knows is right for you. If you have passion burning inside of you for something, if you have an idea, you have the ability. The universe wouldn’t give you the idea if you couldn’t do it.

Don’t listen to the nay-sayers. There will always be someone who will try to convince you otherwise.

It is helpful to write out exactly what you want. Refer out work that is not in your wheelhouse as soon as you can, however you can, so that those things you suck at and put off don’t slow you down. Do this by hiring people, or if you can’t afford that yet, do a trade or find a high school or college student who will do it for low cost.

HOC: You have such an energy, where do you get your inspiration from?

Camille: I get my inspiration from women in my everyday life who are examples to me of shining their light. For example, my natural path doctor, Dr. Kellie Lawler who is fierce and knows how to be soft, and give tough love at the same time is an inspiration to me. Or my friend Michelle Green who is an empath, and amazing mother, is an inspiration to me.

There’s also my son’s 3rd grade teacher who embraced the challenges he put in front of her with love, is an inspiration to me. My mom, who always sees beauty in nature is an inspiration to me. My grandmother who was always good to everyone is an inspiration to me. And finally, my cousin Lysa who is always standing her ground is an inspiration to me.

I also get inspiration from nature. I always find peace, and inspiration in nature. I plan quarterly “mommycations” where I find a cabin in the mountains and go for a weekend, typically by myself to just connect with nature and unwind.

HOC: And finally, how do you get yourself out of a creative funk?

Camille: I tend to get in a funk when I have too much going on in my life and can’t get my head clear. When this happens I’ll look at my schedule and usually see I’ve gotten a bit sloppy about time blocking and will then work on making that a priority again.

I’ve learned that for me it is crucial that I have time in the morning to work out, meditate and be calm before I get my day going. Days that I start off like this are my most productive.

I think it’s important for someone to know when they do best with getting their creative juices flowing. For some people, it’s in the AM, and for others, it’s in the PM. I do best with creativity in the evening after my kids have gone to bed, with a glass of wine. I think this works best for me because I know that I have no time constraints and it’s a peaceful time in my home.

Find out more about Camille’s work at CamilleMarieCoaching.com and SacredSensualSoul.com

Mind November 9, 2023

Welcome to the block button

In a world where we’re more connected than ever, is social media making it too easy to hold a grudge?

“Well I hope you have a nice life, you’ll never hear from me again” I screamed down the phone before slamming it down with such veracity that the handset cracked. Fortunately, this was back in 1999 (no man is worth filing a claim on my phone insurance in 2020), so the damage was negligible, but my blood was boiling. Tom Hegarty (name changed to protect the IDIOT) wasn’t taking me out that night, he was taking one of my classmates instead. After spending three days deciding what to wear, hours of phone calls with my friends debating how the night might go, and nearly losing an ear ironing my hair, I was being stood up for one of my closest friends. Both Tom and “friend” felt my wrath, and, true to my word, neither of them heard from me again. So why was it that at 16 years old, I was better facilitated to cut off people who have caused hurt than I am now at 37? Have I emotionally devolved over the last two decades? Has age made me bitter? Or is it all thanks to that Mark Zuckerberg guy? Yeah, let’s look at that last one, shall we?
When it comes to Facebook, I’ve got one rule: if I wouldn’t let that person in my home, then they’re not having access to my social media. My Instagram and Twitter accounts are a free for all, but that’s where I’m polished and professional. Facebook is where I can be at home with my fellow trash brethren, people I went to school with, co-workers who share my sense of humour, the place where I can let off steam without losing a few hundred followers and receiving an angry call from my agent. I thought I had been stringent, keeping my friends close and my enemies, well, nowhere near. But upon looking closer, this wasn’t necessarily the case. Going through my friends list, there were friends who had actually done some pretty rotten things but had never apologised. Guys who I have zero contact with except for the odd occasion when they’d get drunk and send a creep shout in the early hours of the morning. People who I actually cut off long ago, but then a couple of years pass, they send a friend request online, and you find yourself reconnecting with someone you never would have in real life. Had social media not existed, the likelihood of someone having the balls to knock at your door and ask to be friends after putting your window through three years prior is pretty non-existent. But hey, it’s 2020 now, who needs to apologise when you can hide behind a screen and pretend nothing ever happened?

The Grudge Factor

“You’ll delete them, then add them again in a few weeks” my friend, Chris, mocked this morning. There’s no way this can be true. Or can it? Although I make zero effort to maintain friendships or communication with these people in reality, I allow the virtual friendship to remain. Whilst I would love to claim this to be an act of altruism, a permanent extension of the olive branch, I’m going to ‘fess up and tell you it’s nothing like that at all. It’s petty and wrong and childish and petulant, yet devilish and utterly delicious: I just love holding a grudge. And I know I’m not alone.
“I keep those b*stards on Facebook so I can watch them fail” was my brother’s response to this. A professional musician, Peter’s career has been one long, (yet glorious) uphill struggle to success. “I keep people on there so they can see what I’m doing”. I get that. As someone who has also worked damn hard to get where I am today, there is a small part of me that still holds on to the put downs, the throwaway quips (“people remember you because you’re funny, not for your looks”), the well meaning naysayers (“you can’t change careers at 28, what a waste of a degree”) and the downright b*stards (“just **** off and die”). Sure, the “healthy” way of dealing with these feelings would be to cut these people off completely, but the satisfaction I get from proving them wrong is just so, so sweet. It’s a driving force, it pushes me to do more, to be more. Rachel, a friend of mine who awesomely juggles raising her children and training to be a nurse, is completely fuelled by her grudges: “I’ve plenty of contacts on Facebook who only have me on there because they want to see me fail, but I keep them there because I want them to see me win. It’s a two way grudge, and I’m winning my side because I’m turning that negativity into something good”.
Ok, so some good can come from the rage, but had social media not come into play, surely we would do what we did twenty years ago and move on? Holding grudges is proven to be detrimental to our mental and physical health, so why do they feel so damn good? “Because our curiosity is satisfied, we used to cut people off knowing full well that that was the end of the road, but now we can see what they’re up to and it makes us feel better about ourselves”. At 50 years old and with three divorces under her belt, no one knows more about grudges than my friend, Sue. For her, checking up on her exes on social media isn’t unhealthy, it’s cathartic, amusing, and it a fun way to spend a Friday evening. More-so, I suspect it is a form of reassurance, of remembering that the heartbreak was worth it and the right decision was made. It’s just sometimes, we have to feel as though we’ve bettered someone, we’ve got one up on them, to silence the whisper of “what if?”. Rather than an act of pettiness, some grudges could well be a well placed defence mechanism, a self imposed measure to ensure you don’t pick up the phone late one Friday night and tell him you miss how he used to bring you coffee when you were working late. It cracks the lens of the rose tinted glasses and keeps you from remembering things differently and making excuses for their behaviour. The grudge fills you with adrenaline as you’re scrolling through their Facebook feed, and that adrenaline drowns that sickening feeling in your stomach, the one that dares to suggest that you made the wrong choice, even when it was 100% right. Having your curiosity satisfied via social media may well enable you to keep a heathy distance physically from those who have hurt you, and that seems perfectly reasonable to me.

Just call me Petty Labelle

Of course, grudges aren’t all about self preservation, sometimes they’re just for our own amusement. Pretty much everyone I spoke to about this agreed that they had kept people on their Facebook friends list just for the comedy value. Friendships that had naturally run their course, old colleagues you wouldn’t say hello to in the street, they’re all fair game for a few laughs, self validation, and for when we’re feeling a being a bit nosey. Admittedly, in a day and age where access to intimate details and the day to day lives of our foes is scarily accessible, it would be difficult to dampen our curiosity and refuse a sneaky peek. One friend, who shall not be named, has a next level solution that feels both terrifying and sensible in equal measure: “It’s simple, if someone upsets me, they get deleted and blocked. It’s therapeutic and final. But I also have a fake profile so I just spy on them from that so I don’t have to look at their stupid photos every day”. Compartmentalising friends and foes in this way seems borderline genius, but it’s not for me. Keeping everyone who has ever hurt me in one virtual cell may seem sensible (and will no doubt work for many), but I know where that will lead. It’ll be somewhere I visit when I’m having a bad day, somewhere with the potential to not just create the amusement we’ve joked about here so far, but to remind me of all things I hate about myself. To validate, albeit temporarily, all the flaws these people have preyed upon, pointed out, or exacerbated. That’s not a happy place to be. It’s not a healthy place. It’s not somewhere I want to visit.

The Purge

Chris was a bit more black and white about this: “If someone has caused immense upset, they get deleted so I don’t end up throwing my phone at the wall”. I read over his words several times, opened up my Facebook page and deleted 48 people. That’s 48 people who, if I’m completely honest, probably weren’t on there for the best of reasons. I don’t care that I can’t see what they’re doing any more, nor do I care that they can’t see my goings on either. Taking the time to think about why I hoard ex friends and ex boyfriends like a crazy cat lady collecting strays made me realise that these people did nothing to enhance my day to day life. It’s sad, but sometimes you’ve got to move on, even if it means permanently losing the opportunity to send screen shots to your friends to laugh at. It’s just not healthy. Social media has made it too easy to revisit those feelings, regardless of whether they’re positive or destructive. We can’t slam the handset down anymore (too expensive), scream into a pillow and hope we don’t bump into them at the weekend. They’re commenting on our mutual friends posts, their liking other girls photos, they could live 200 miles away and yet they’re there, in our lives, every day. We can’t be granted closure if we’re constantly looking back and checking up on what they’re up to. Sometimes, you’ve got to sacrifice the comedy, the adrenaline, the glorious rush of the grudge, and say welcome to the block button.
I’ve no doubt that over the coming months, some of my deletees will try and add me on Facebook again. Time will tell if I hold on to this new found sense of grudge free relief, or if curiosity will get the better of me and I’ll let them back in. Whilst I feel better, lighter, for not being reminded of my grudges every time I go online, I’ll admit, that tiny tickle of curiosity is prickling the hairs on the back of my neck. Right now, I’m not going to cave, life goes on and I don’t need to feed off negativity to get me where I want to be. And let’s face it, I can always get one of my friends to take a peek for me…

Arts November 9, 2023

An evening at the Life Ball: Vienna’s Most Spectacular Party

Last month, Team Coco got to live out our princess dreams by attending the truly outrageous annual Life Ball in Vienna. The Life Ball is one of the biggest social events in Vienna’s bustling cultural calendar and takes place each year amidst the breathtaking gothic architecture of the Weiner Rathaus.

Organised by AIDS LIFE, the Vienna Life Ball has been actively raising awareness about HIV and AIDS since 1993. Founded by Gery Kessler and Torgom Petrosian, the Life Ball has become one of the world’s most important AIDS Charity Events and donates its seven-digit proceeds to a number of aids projects all around the world. As Austria’s biggest fundraiser for HIV/AIDS, the Life Ball attracts a flurry of celebrities to its worthy cause each and every year. Some note-worthy appearances this year were Caitlin Jenner, Paris Jackson, Patty LaBelle, and Adrian Brody who all wore the Life+Patch kicking off a year round campaign encouraging everyone to get tested.

To say that the Life Ball was a bit eclectic is probably the biggest understatement of the year. This year’s theme was a strange yet beautiful homage to the Sound of Music, and the Life Ball transformed the breathtaking facade of the Weiner Rathaus into an awe-inspiring Sound of Music Landscape. A set that captured the Alpine beauty of the Salzburg countryside. A bearded Conchita Wurst played the role of Maria Von Trapp, kicking off a wonderfully bonkers show, that was part broadway musical, part anarchic parade, and part red carpet wedding fashion show. All this culminated with AMFAR’S Epic Ride, which brought actors Adrian Brody, Michiel Huisman, Ian Bohen, and Gilles Marini (to name a few) from Zurich to Vienna on classic motorcycles; representing the epic journey that Life+ has fought against HIV AIDS in the last twenty-five years.

To top it all off, Vienna’s local attendees definitely did not disappoint not the style department. A parade of feathered Lederhosen and Dirndl inspired looks, majestic gravity-defying ballgowns, and leather clad attendees all presented a spirit of love, tolerance and acceptance. Once the party really got started after midnight, there was no telling the difference between Hollywood celebrities, and enthusiastic costumed locals with a penchant for DIY. Gay, straight, old, young, Lederhosen or Dirndl – everyone was welcome to celebrate Vienna’s most spectacular evening. After all, the Life Ball is all about fighting the stigma against AIDS so intolerance and discrimination were not welcome to the festivities. And once all the revelries had concluded, and attendees stumbled back to their hotels, (at 5.a.m, probably – who even knows) we can rest assured that we probably witnessed the craziest party of our lives, and hey! It was also for a truly worthy cause.

Hannah Tan-Gillies attended the Vienna Life Ball, in support of HIV AIDS charities held every year in Austria’s capital at the Vienna City Hall; 2019 Life Ball will be end May/beginning June. Tickets for 2019 go on sale early 2019 (www.lifeplus.org/tickets/en) Example prices from 2018 are: €90 – discount for guests in flamboyant costume, guidelines provided; €180 – elegant/themed costume; €559 – international package including flights, accommodation and entry.

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Sex & Relationships September 26, 2023

Latidate.com: Your Gateway to Finding Your Soulmate

Are you sick and tired of swiping left and right looking for your significant other? Look no further than Latidate.com, the online dating site that has helped countless individuals meet their soulmate.

In this comprehensive review, we delve into the features and user experience of Latidate.com to give you a firsthand look at what makes it stand out from the crowd.

One of the standout features of Latidate.com is its sleek design. With its intuitive layout and easy navigation, finding your way around the site is a breeze.

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Is Latidate.com safe to use?

Absolutely!

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What are the success rates on Latidate.com？With its impressive track record of helping people find love and companionship, it’s no wonder that Latidate.com has received high praise from its users.

The site has a proven track record of connecting individuals who are looking for genuine relationships.

Read on to find out if Latidate.com is the key to finding your soulmate. In the next section，we’ll provide an overview of Latidate.com’s features, giving you a closer look at what this popular dating site has to offer.

Overview of Latidate.com

Latidate.com is a popular online dating site that has helped many people find love and companionship. To understand the true quality of the site, we checked out real users’ feedback.

We found out that Latidate.com has deserved high praise from the majority of participants.

One of the main things that participants love about Latidate.com is its awesome design. The site is easy to user and has a clear layout that makes it effortless to find the options you need.

The search filters are particularly useful, lettingusers to filter prospective matches based on definite criteria like location or interest.

In addition to being easy to use, Latidate.com is also great at connecting users with like-minded individuals. Members usually praise the mechanisms that the site applies to bring people together.

Key Features and Offerings of Latidate.com

Create a nice profile on Latidate.com to make cute matches notice you

Explore the diverse range of profiles and search for your ideal match

Receive daily match recommendations tailored to your preferences

No obligatory payments

Date safely and securily

With its efficient search tools, simple design, and responsive customer support team，Latidate.com is one of the most trustworthy dating platforms available. So why not give it a try and see what all the fuss is about？

Whether you’re looking for love，friendship, or just casual dating，you are sure to find what you are looking for at Latidate.com.

Continue reading to see our detailed review of the site’s features.

Features of Latidate.com

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As a seasoned dating expert with over 15 years of experience in the field, I can confidently say that Latidate.com is a top-tier online dating site that delivers exceptional results.

Latidate.com offers a plethora of features designed to enhance your online dating experience. Let’s start with its sophisticated user interface.

Upon signing up, you’ll be greeted with a modern and intuitive design that makes navigation a breeze. You can quickly search for potential dates using filters such as age, location, and interests，allowing you to find someone who truly matches your preferences.

Communication is key when it comes to building meaningful connections, and Latidate.com understands this well. The site provides an efficient message inbox system that enables seamless communication between potential matches.

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When it comes to safety, Latidate.com takes it seriously. The site implements various security measures，including photo verification, to ensure that you’re engaging with genuine individuals. This gives you peace of mind and allows you to focus on forging connections without worrying about scams or fake profiles.

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Additionally, you can showcase your personality and interests through photo sharing and extended profile sections.

With profile search filters and saved searches, Latidate.com helps you narrow down your search based on specific criteria. This ensures that you’re presented with potential matches who align with your values and aspirations.

In summary, Latidate.com provides an exceptional array of features that cater to your dating needs. From private chat functions and video chat capabilities to two-way audio chat and instant messaging, users have ample tools at their disposal to connect with others in real-time. Moreover, photo sharing, extended profile sections, profile search filters and saved searches allow users to personalize their experience and find someone who is a perfect match for them.

Whether you’re seeking a serious relationship or looking to explore new connections，this platform has it all.

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Now that we’ve explored the features of Latidate.com，let’s dive into the user experience on the site.

User Experience on Latidate.com

User experience is crucial when it comes to online dating, and Latidate.com truly excels in this aspect. Users consistently commend the site for its sleek design and user-friendly interface.

Regardless of your level of technological saltiness，you’ll find the site easy to navigate and intuitive to use. The layout ensures that all features are easily accessible, making the overall experience seamless.

What sets Latidate.com apart is its ability to connect users with like-minded individuals. Utilizing a sophisticated algorithm, the site matches users based on their interests and preferences, increasing the likelihood of finding a compatible partner.

This personalized approach enhances the overall user experience, helping individuals form meaningful connections.

Moreover, safety is a top priority on Latidate.com. The site employs a thorough vetting process to ensure that every profile is legitimate, providing users with peace of mind. The dedicated team works diligently to prevent any fraudulent activity, creating a secure environment for everyone involved.

Pros of Using Latidate.com

Sleek and user-friendly design that caters to users of all ages

Intuitive layout and easy navigation for a seamless user experience

Advanced search functions that allow filtering based on specific criteria

Cons of Using Latidate.com

Limited information about the vetting process for user profiles

Some users may find the algorithm-based matching system too restrictive

May require a paid subscription for full access to all features

Next, we will explore the pros and cons of using Latidate.com. From its sleek design and advanced search functions to potential limitations and subscription requirements, we’ll provide an honest assessment to help you make an informed decision on your online dating journey.

Pros and Cons of Latidate.com

When it comes to online dating, Latidate.com offers a plethora of advantages. One of the biggest pros is the vast pool of potential partners available on the site. With a diverse user base，you’ll have the opportunity to connect with individuals from various backgrounds and interests.

The advanced search tools provided by Latidate.com allow you to narrow down your search based on specific criteria. Whether you’re looking for someone in a particular location or with certain hobbies, you can easily find compatible matches that align with your preferences.

The user-friendly interface of Latidate.com makes navigating the site effortless. You can browse profiles，send messages，and explore different features without any hassle or confusion.

Compatibility algorithms utilized by Latidate.com further enhance your chances of finding suitable matches. These algorithms take into account factors like shared interests, values, and relationship goals to recommend potential partners who are more likely to be a good fit for you. Latidate.com also prioritizes the safety of its users, implementing stringent security measures to protect personal information and prevent fraudulent activities, creating a safe environment for online dating.

However, there are a few downsides to consider as well. Like any online dating site, there is always the risk of encountering fake profiles and scams. It’s essential to staycautious when interacting with the participants online.

Additionally, transitioning from online interactions to in-person meetings can be challenging and verifying the authenticity of user profiles can be difficult. Next, we provide some final thoughts on Latidate.com.

Pricing and Membership Details

When it comes to pricing and membership details, Latidate.com offers a range of options to suit your needs.

Let’s take a closer look at the different membership plans and their features, summarized in the table below.

Is Latidate.com worth your money？Let’s find out. With its powerful search tools, sleek design, and user-friendly interface, Latidate.com offers an exceptional online dating experience.

The pricing plans provide flexibility and added features based on your preferences. Whether you opt for the free membership or choose to unlock all the benefits of premium or VIP membership, Latidate.com has something for everyone.

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Final Thoughts on Latidate.com

After a thorough review of Latidate.com, we can confidently say that it is an exceptional online dating site. With its sleek design, powerful search tools, and commitment to user safety, Latidate.com stands out as a reliable platform for meeting like-minded individuals. The site’s intuitive layout makes navigation effortless, while the advanced fraud detection methods and safety tips ensure a secure environment.

Whether you’re searching for love, friendship, or casual dating, Latidate.com is definitely worth exploring.

Start your journey to finding meaningful connections at Latidate.com today!

Frequently Asked Questions

Is Latidate.com safe to use?

When it comes to safety, Latidate.com goes above and beyond to protect its users. With advanced fraud detection methods and constant updates to their algorithms, the site ensures that potentially dangerous accounts are swiftly identified and removed.

Additionally, Latidate.com provides valuable resources such as safety tips and best practices to help users stay informed and protected.

Rest assured, your security is a top priority at Latidate.com.

What are the success rates on Latidate.com?

Wondering about the success rates on Latidate.com？Rest assured, this popular online dating site has received high praise from countless users. Its sleek design and intuitive layout make finding compatible matches a breeze.

The advanced algorithms employed by Latidate.com ensure that you connect with like-minded individuals who share your interests and values.

Join Latidate.com today and become part of the success stories that have blossomed into beautiful relationships.

Sex & Relationships September 5, 2023

How To Use Niche Dating Sites To Find The Perfect Partner For You

The world of dating has come a long way over the years. Gone are the days when kinks were taboo, and sex was only considered legitimate if done with a spouse. Today’s generation is among the most free and open when it comes to sex, and they’ve helped to introduce a new lexicon which includes a range of sexualities and genders.

While there have always been multiple types of sexuality, these have been hidden throughout history and were often considered to be unclean or even a sign of mental illness. While homosexuality was decriminalised in 1967, living openly as a gay person has been difficult for many years after that, and there are still issues that many face today. These include issues with marrying or travelling abroad as openly gay or sexually different individuals. Only heterosexual, cis-gendered couples can be considered truly safe from hate crime or legal issues, and

With technology at the forefront of almost everything these days, finding a romantic partner has shifted from the physical to the digital realm. While mainstream dating apps work for some, others find their potential partner pool diluted.

Niche dating sites may be the answer to finding someone who truly aligns with your values, interests, and lifestyle. They cater to specific categories such as hobbies, religious beliefs, racial and ethnic groups, professions, and much more. Here’s a comprehensive guide to making the most of niche dating sites to find your perfect partner.

Pinpoint Your Desires

Before diving into the world of online dating, it’s essential to understand what you’re seeking in a partner. Take time to introspect about your previous relationships and ask yourself some crucial questions. What worked? What didn’t? What are your non-negotiables? Are there specific qualities that you value over others? Being clear about your desires will help you choose the right niche dating site. Once you know, you’ll be more prepared and know what you’re looking for from a potential partner so that you can start your search off right.

Pick Out The Right Sites

The next step is selecting the dating site that aligns with your interests and desires. There are niche sites catering to a wide array of specific interests such as travelling, vegan lifestyle, religious beliefs, and outdoor activities, among others. You can also find platforms for specific types of partner, such as people of a certain age or race. For example, you can find niche sites like Eastern European dating sites for people in the UK, so you can find a site that fits your needs, however specific they might seem. Research various sites and consider their user base, success rates, safety measures, and costs. While a dating site can’t guarantee that you’ll find ‘the one’, choosing a site that attracts people with similar interests increases the chances of finding someone compatible.

Write An Honest Bio

A well-crafted profile is your digital representative. It helps potential matches gauge their compatibility with you even before initiating a conversation. The bio you create is your chance to introduce yourself and share a bit about what makes you unique. Honesty goes a long way in creating meaningful connections. Authenticity will attract people who appreciate you for who you truly are. If you write something that’s not entirely true or exaggerated, then it might come back to bite you later, or you might find that you only attract individuals who aren’t suitable. Make sure you’re clear, and share your hobbies, passions, and what you value in life. This approach will help you connect with like-minded individuals and give you a better chance of finding someone who suits you. Remember, the goal of your profile is not to attract everyone, but to attract the right ones. An engaging, authentic profile that showcases your personality and interests can significantly increase your chances of finding a perfect match on a niche dating site.

Take The Perfect Profile Pic

Pics on a dating site act as a first impression, so it’s crucial that you choose the right one. After all, your profile picture is often the first thing that other users notice, so it’s essential to choose a photo that represents you accurately and positively. Use a high-resolution photo that clearly shows your face. Blurry or pixelated images may give a bad impression or make it harder to pick out your beautiful features. The quality of the image is important, but more so is what the image shows. Your profile photo should be of just you. Avoid using a group photo, as it can be confusing for potential matches and make it harder for them to pick you out from the crowd. Choose a picture that reflects your personality and interests. If you love hiking, a photo of you on a trail could be an excellent choice. You might want to consider adding multiple images, especially if you have a lot of interests, as most sites will allow you to use a range of images.

State Your Intentions From The Start

Once you start talking to someone on a niche dating site, state your intentions from the start. It might seem a bit forward and uncomfortable, but being upfront from the beginning about what you want will help you to find someone who’s truly compatible with you and looking for the same things. That’s particularly important when it comes to discussing marriage and your future. As 42% of dating site users are looking for marriage, if you’re not eager to get hitched then you need to be clear about that from the first conversation you have. Make it clear what you want and explain what’s definitely not on the table, and what might change in the future. You’ll then be able to avoid wasting everyone’s time and narrow down your search for the perfect partner.

Be Safe When Using Niche Dating Sites

Online dating comes with risks; you’re talking to strangers and giving them intimate personal details, so there’s always a chance that something bad will happen. As such, you need to make sure that you prioritise your safety when interacting with people online. Keep personal information such as your home address, financial details, and work location private until you establish a trusting relationship. If and when you decide to meet someone from a dating app in person, choose a public place and let someone know where you’re going. Consider using an emergency phone call to ensure that you have a way to escape if you feel uncomfortable, to ensure that you’re safe. Using these safety measures will reduce your chances of dealing with a negative dating situation, but it’s impossible to entirely avoid any issues. Be cautious and if you’re unsure about anything that’s happening on a date or in an online conversation, then you should immediately extract yourself from the situation and get yourself to a safe place. Your safety is vital, so don’t be afraid to set boundaries and be clear about what you’re comfortable with, especially when you start taking the next steps and move on to having a sexual relationship with someone.

Summing It All Up

Finding your perfect partner on a niche dating site is a journey that requires introspection, patience, and perseverance. By pinpointing using the tips outlined in this article, you will increase your chances of finding a partner who truly complements your lifestyle and values. The process will still take time, but these ideas should make it easier for you to find someone who’s compatible with you and fulfils your needs. Happy dating!

Sex & Relationships August 3, 2023

Setting the Stage for a Magical Date Night

There’s something enchanting about the concept of a date night. It’s not just another meal or movie outing. It’s an opportunity to ignite the sparks, rekindle the magic, take a step away from the daily grind, and immerse yourself in the company of your partner. Yet, making a date night truly special requires a dash of creativity, a splash of novelty, and a whole lot of heart. So, how do you set the stage for an enchanting evening?

Creating the Right Ambiance

The power of the perfect ambiance cannot be overstated. It’s like an invisible character playing a pivotal role in the unfolding grand love story. First things first, you’ll want to select a location that suits both your personalities. Does a quiet night under the starry skies with a blanket and a basket of goodies appeal to you? Or perhaps, you’d prefer a tastefully adorned table at your favorite local eatery?

Before deciding, you could try a quick experiment. Visit Directfragrances.online and purchase a wholesale perfume that encapsulates the mood you’re trying to create. Is it an exotic, warm night in a far-off land? Or a delicate, sweet day in a blooming meadow? Choose a scent that invokes these feelings. The right fragrance can whisk you both away to a different world, creating an atmosphere so heady that it stays with you long after the night.

The Power of Thoughtful Gestures

Wouldn’t you agree that it’s the small, thoughtful gestures that often leave the deepest impressions? These actions don’t have to be grand or expensive; they just need to be genuine and heartwarming.

Remember to select activities that both of you enjoy. Perhaps, it’s revisiting the place you first met, or trying out that new painting class you’ve been eyeing, or even cooking a meal together. Also, personal touches such as a handwritten note, a favorite homemade dessert, or a special song can make the evening unforgettable.

The Art of Conversation

Your words can create magic too! Isn’t it wonderful to get lost in deep, engaging, and heartening conversations? You might want to put aside the regular talks about work or daily chores to achieve this. Instead, why not dive into shared dreams, and long-forgotten stories, or even discuss a captivating book? Listening is just as important as talking. It shows your partner that you value their thoughts and their presence.

Conclusion

Creating a magical date night doesn’t always necessitate grand gestures or exotic locales. Often, the simple, thoughtful details and personalized touches carve the night deep into the heart. From selecting the ideal ambiance-enhancing fragrance, to planning heartfelt gestures and holding deep, meaningful conversations, each component plays its part in the orchestration of an unforgettable evening.

Take the leap and plan your enchanting date night. Allow an ordinary evening to metamorphose into an extraordinary spectacle of love and connection. The magic doesn’t just lie in the grandeur, but in the authenticity and care that you infuse into each moment. Isn’t life about creating these precious, unforgettable instances that become timeless memories? It’s time to create your own magic.

Sex & Relationships June 28, 2023

Simple Tips for Making a Good First Impression in the Dating World

First impressions matter, especially in the dating world where you only get one chance to make a lasting impact. Whether it’s a blind date or meeting someone for the first time online, how you present yourself can either make or break your chances of finding love. That’s why we’ve put together some simple tips that will help you create an unforgettable first impression and increase your chances of finding that special someone. From making a good first impression to conversation starters, read on for our top tips on making the right impression in the dating world!

Tips for Making a Good First Impression

If you’re looking to make a good impression when you Hookup Tonight, follow these simple tips:

1. Smile! It can be easy to come across as aloof or disinterested if you don’t smile – and it will definitely turn off potential partners. Make an effort to put your best foot forward by showing you’re enjoying yourself and feeling at ease.

2. Dress appropriately! No one wants to date someone who looks like they just rolled out of bed – try to dress neatly and moderately stylishly, without being too formal or trendy. It’ll let people know that you’re approachable and down for a casual night out rather than someone who’s prim and proper all the time.

3. Be yourself! So don’t try to be somebody you’re not – be honest, open, and authentic with who you are. People appreciate sincerity, so give it a go!

4. Don’t hesitate to ask questions! When meeting new people, always feel free to ask questions – this will show that you’re interested in hearing more about them and aren’t just sizing them up from afar. You might even end up getting lucky and finding your future partner this way!

How to Address Communication Issues

When looking to start dating, it’s important to be aware of the communication issues that can arise. Here are a few tips:

1. Make an effort to listen attentively. It can be hard to pay attention when you’re talking to someone new, but it’s essential for building a rapport. Try not to interrupt and wait for your partner to finish before responding.

2. Offer your opinion with caution. Many people feel uncomfortable sharing their opinions with others, especially if they don’t know them well yet. If you want to share your opinion, do so cautiously and ask your date if he or she is comfortable hearing it first.

3. Never worry about taking a break. Dating can be intense and tiring, which is why taking breaks is important both physically and mentally. If you find yourself getting overwhelmed or frustrated, try stepping away for a short period of time until you’re ready to continue conversations again.

4. Be respectful of your date’s time and space. When meeting new people, it’s important not only to be polite and friendly, but also mindful of how much time each person wants to spend on dates and in general conversation settings. And lastly, always ask before entering or leaving someone else’s space – this includes private homes as well as public spaces like restaurants or bars.

How to Handle Rejection

Here are four tips for handling rejection:

1. Don’t take it personally. Sometimes people simply don’t want to date someone right away, or they might have other priorities at the moment. It’s important not to get too wrapped up in the rejections you receive – after all, there are plenty of other fish in the sea!

2. Be yourself. If you’re proud of your looks, don’t try to hide it; if you’re not comfortable with your weight, let people know – but don’t try to make everyone like you just because you think it’ll help your chances. People are more likely to connect with someone who is genuine and authentic.

3. Be patient. No one likes being rejected, but remember that dating is a process – it doesn’t happen overnight! And even if someone does turn down your invitation for a date, that doesn’t mean they don’t want you as a friend or partner later on down the line – so keep those eyes open!

4. Offer compliments cautiously. While it can be tempting to tell someone they look great every time they reject us, sometimes this can come across as too forward or pushy (not to mention embarrassing!). Instead, try praising them selectively – for example, saying something like “you have such beautiful eyes”.

Conclusion

In conclusion, be positive and upbeat – let your personality shine through! Be on time – arriving early shows that you respect the person you’re meeting and aren’t just looking for an opportunity to run away as soon as possible. Then avoid making any big assumptions about who someone is or what they want – everyone is different, so it’s important to take the time to get to know them better. Finally, remember that everyone has their own unique interests and quirks – don’t take them too seriously! Good luck out there!

Sex & Relationships June 23, 2023

Health Benefits of Sex Explored: A Guide For Women

In 2023, sex is becoming less of a taboo subject, and more people than ever are talking about the benefits of engaging in sex with their partners or even by themselves.

Of course, many people are aware of the health benefits of engaging in healthy sex regularly. However, you may be curious to learn about what the most recent research says about them and how it can have a positive impact your life. So, ladies, read on to learn more!

Stronger Pelvic Floor Muscles

Many women have heard of pelvic floor exercises; however, you may be curious why they’re important. Well, sex with a partner or even the use of Rabbit vibrators helps to strengthen the pelvic floor muscles. This can help with bladder control, reduce the risk of prolapse when and if you give birth, and will also help you to experience stronger orgasms.

So, by engaging in solo sex, regular sex, or using toys, you can create a positive feedback loop by strengthening these muscles and helping yourself to have a lot of fun while doing so.

Lower Blood Pressure

When you have sex, your body gets a bit of a workout, and your brain releases a barrage of chemicals. Combine the two, and you have a natural and fun way to lower your blood pressure. This is due in part to the physical aspect of having sex, alongside the feel-good chemicals released after sex, such as serotonin and dopamine, both of which lower inflammation and reduce your heart rate.

Lower Chance of Heart Disease

Much like twenty minutes on an exercise bike, sex also improves your heart health. When you have sex, your heart rate goes up due to the physical exertion, which has the added benefit of pumping your blood around your body quicker and with more precision. This helps to build the heart muscle without too much stress, and in turn, lowers your resting heart rate, improving your overall heart health.

Better Sleep

There’s a good reason why so many people have sex before going to bed. When you have sex and have orgasms, your brain releases serotonin, dopamine, oxytocin, and melatonin, which are these are all neurochemicals that help to not only improve your mood but will also help you to fall asleep.

Indeed, studies have found that couples in long-term relationships who engage in regular sex have better sleep overall, and also report better long-term mental health and sense of well-being, particularly with appropriate aftercare for sex. So, that’s good news all around. It can make having sex in the middle of the day a bit tricky, though!

Better Immune Response

When you have sex, your body releases more antibodies. The reason behind this is, at best, unclear. However, the leading theory is that when people engage in sex, the chance of exchanging bodily fluids goes up, which can expose the body to catching an infection.

So, to prevent this, every time you have sex, the body reacts by releasing antibodies and immunoglobulins. This is also why after you begin having sex with a new partner, you may catch a cold or feel unwell for a while; your body is just trying to keep you safe.

In the long term, this has the apparent benefit of having a more dynamic immune system, which is beneficial to your long-term health.